Tony Wedge asked:




In this day in age, chances are if you marry you’ll end up divorced. Most people have valid reasons to divorce but some couples choose to work out their differences. On occasion, going through a divorce is the absolute best decision to make and in some people’s eyes a divorce often a common and expected life experience. In order to understand why most marriages end in divorce we have to look at a few factors that undoubtedly influence the decision.

Not in love anymore – The thrill and excitement of being in love doesn’t exist in the relationship. The reason you went through the process of marriage disappeared. While some couples can remain together while not being in love for various reason (kids, money, etc.), most couples need love to make it work.

Abuse – Every person has his or her breaking point and that point varies from person to person. Regardless of the type of abuse, divorce is the right answer. Life is too short to be a voluntary victim of abuse.

Lying/Cheating – Total disregard for the other person’s feelings for personal satisfaction. Basically this reason for divorce boils down to selfishness and lack of commitment. Some couples can survive the lying and cheating most couples go their separate ways.

Personality/Physical changes – You may still be in love but one or both of you changed. Maybe its political views or a massive weight gain but regardless you’re not the same person you were when the marriage commitment was made.

There are many other reasons to divorce; the list above is in no way a complete list of causes. Understanding that marriage is a flowing ecosystem that has moments of perfect calm and treacherous storms will help make sense of divorce. Sporadically, everything seems fine one day but the next day the commitment is gone. The resulting divorce may or may not be your fault but regardless of blame unless you have a plan and a ton of patience divorce is a strong possibility.

Dr John Anne asked:




There are situations in a person’s life where isolation and lack of happiness is experienced. Depression is a condition where a person feels bored and miserable. This feeling can be troubling particularly when a person seems so low and cannot conquer the obstructions that he is facing.

Many have thought that this touching problem is not that grave to worry about. Researches have proved that this state of depression can be a poor health condition and must be treated with care. Some depressed people may go to a psychiatrist for check up and consultation. It could be more worthwhile if the person would see a therapist.

Most psychiatrists are extremely good in finding the reason why a person became depressed. The procedure by which a therapist treats depression is through emotional and psychological approach. On the other hand, a physician will advise patients to take anti-depressant medicines. There are occasion that have happened where a doctor treating a patient for depression was involved in such controversies where inappropriate medications were applied.

A specialist for depression would categorize a depressed person if he presents some symptoms of noteworthy weight loss, rise in appetite, loss of nimbleness, or weight gain because of extreme eating. Others who are depressed may also come across problems in sleeping or may suffer from insomnia, over sleeping, loss of sexual interest, and the lack of curiosity in lifestyle activities.

Some suggestion of depression may also come in a more emotional approach like the feeling of unhappiness and tedium, feeling of being a ineffectual individual, the feeling of culpability to oneself, the feeling of being unresolved to some simple decisions, and the diminish in the ability of the mind to think and concentrate. The most terrifying symptoms of depression may come if a person is all the time thinking of his death or an individual wants to commit *******.

Here are some conducts to deal with depression

A) An individual must force himself to go outside. Do not even worry if the climatic conditions are not that good. Try to have a stroll outside, read a book, or even try to write poetry. This can be an efficient idea to conquer the depression rather than staying on the room alone.

2. It is all the time better if there are people that will hold up the person in depression. It is suggested that a person seek for a friend or a friend while he is still in the stage of improving depression. If the individual is not use to such a therapy, the Internet should be a very good resort to find ways how to find ways to treat this kind of ailment. It could be a little embarrassed to find some other people who are facing depression, but there is the likelihood that there are others out there that can relate.

3. It is sensible for the individual to write what he feels at that moment of depression. If there are no friends to tell what the problems are, he may try scripting about the feeling so that the abhorrence or sadness will collapse. Holding the feeling can just add more despair.

4. Meditation can be a good way to fight the depression. Deep breathing and good relaxation can ease anxiety and pressure that may escort to depression.

Depression can be treated if the person understands that he must also do his part on conquering the illness. If these suggested ways do not show any growth to let go of depression then it should be best if the person look for the help of a doctor or a therapist.

maslyn_jl asked:


I have been suffering from Bipolar depression for several years now…somewhere around 10 years. The doctor has put me on several different medications that caused me more issues (weight gain, fatigue and other stuff like that) that I could not handle. I have not been on medicine since I had my son 2 years ago. Things seem to be getting worse lately with all the stress that has been added since my wedding in May. I have an appointment with my doctor today to try to get something to help me. It has gotten to the boilling point where I can see my condition hurting my family. Anyone have any suggestions on what medications worked good for you or someone you know? Or any other comments for me…please don’t be negative..that is not going to help me at all..it will only make it worse.
I agree with all of you. I appreciate soo much your suggestions or words of support for me. It helps.

Bill – you are right, I am lacking self-confidence but I have had that problem all of my life. It’s not something I can just snap out of by myself. I almost wonder if at times I need people around me that feel like I do so that we can support each other…I am too embarrased most the time to tell anyone about my problems.