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Paul J Easton asked:




So the question you have is how to help someone with depression? The first thing you need to understand is the illness itself. Most people realize that depression is a mental illness. But what they don’t realize is that depression affects much more then just their mind. It also affects relationships with loved ones, work as well as their own body. You can probably recognize when someone you are close to isn’t just themselves.

Since depression is very difficult to identify as well as cure, you must understand that only a medical professional can help a person overcome it. There are some basic symptoms to look for. If you see a loved one suffering from more then 3 of the following items for longer then a week, then the person might be depressed.

Read everything that you can about the illness. How can you help someone with depression if you don’t know anything about it. After you read up of everything you can get your hands will be better suited to help. Just remember, you are not a doctor so don’t try to diagnosis anything.

Take all of your new found knowledge and talk to them. Let them know why you think they are depressed. Having them understand what they are going through is a disease could help them in their recovery.

Do not demand that they get help. Try to influence them the best way you can. If you are too pushy, it could cause them to completely shut down. Of course, the first sign of ******* you should take them to an emergency medical expert.

Tell them that you will find a doctor for them. Maybe offer to watch their kids while they go to an appointment. Cook dinner or take them to lunch. Dot lie to them by saying “I know what you are going through” if you don’t. Just tell them you want them to get better.

Abhishek Agarwal asked:




It is true that self-help seminars and workshops can do a lot to help you get a better self esteem. It is also true that going to a life coach or a counselor or psychologist for training can work well for some.

However, the only thing that can accompany you wherever you go is self-help books, and there are many available on the market by renowned authors. Since the problems of low self esteem are not predominant in America alone, but all around the world, it should not be too hard for you to get your hands on a good book, wherever you may be.

Self-help books need not always be on increasing self esteem directly. One look through a book shop’s self-help section will show that you can buy books on hobbies like photography and cooking, and on personal help like doing better at relationships and at work. All these will however help you with better self esteem in the long run. So, there is a self-help book for you, whatever the goals that you set for your self may be.

As human beings, we are superior to all other living things on the planet and one of the things that prove this is our ability to effect change on our surroundings. So do get one on whatever it is that you would like to change, and put what you learn from these books into affect.

Soon you will see a positive change in your life, and the feelings of accomplishment that come with this can work wonders for your self-image. So many self-help books have been published to date that it is not a problem finding one on whatever topic you may have in mind. In fact you may face a bigger problem selecting one or two books out of the dozens to choose from.

They are a great thing to carry if you travel a lot. Not only do they help you pass your time constructively they are easy to carry and store. As sophisticated and miniature that palmtop computers have gotten today, the feel of a good book in your hands can never be replaced by a computer, and any one accustomed to handling books will confirm that.

We may get so preoccupied in our day to day problems that it is not always easy to take out the time to attend a self improvement seminar or lecture. But we can all at least take out the time and money to get a good self-help book. After all, it is for our own improvement that we do this, so do take the time and effort to get your hands on a book of this sort.

Don Cooper asked:




Today everyone is looking for self-help books. These books generate millions of dollars of income for those that write them. And in some cases leave the ones that read them more confused than ever.

Society is looking for answers to various life questions. Looking for answers for things such as relationships. (Something I found I wasn’t very good at.) Other topics such, as finances, addictions, child raring, business advice, and happiness. And whatever else seems to be troubling them at the moment.

When we are experiencing difficulties in our life we turn to the book of the month looking for the answer to our problem. We read and apply the principles to our daily life. I think in the beginning it seems to help, we think wow! This is really working for me. Then usually we run into a bump in the road that wasn’t covered in the book. Then we either go by another book to try find a new answer. Or, we just give up. Figuring this is the way it has to be.

I can only relate to this in my brief experience at wanting to be a horse trainer. I wanted to be a colt starter/western horse trainer. So, I started reading everything I could get my hands on about training horses. Soon I was attempting in real life. Applying all these newly read about methods on real horses. For the most part I was successful with the starting of the colts. I was able to get them to accept the saddle, and then the rider with not too much trouble. Only the occasional problem, and usually I would find a way to work through it.

But then as I tried to expand these young horses minds, I found it to become much more difficult to follow the books as written. It seemed that know matter how good a horseman the person that wrote the book was there was always something missing. Some step that was left out, or this horses particular personality didn’t blend with this training method. So eventually I just decided I started way to late in life to learn everything that a successful trainer needs to know.

But the point of this is, even the best author may not experience everything needed to accomplish the task in some cases. I think that applies to self-help as well. A person goes along fine until they find that one situation that wasn’t covered. Leaving them dangling. Not knowing which way to turn.

I guess I have screwed up most everything in my life, at least once, if not multiple times. I have failed in marriage, raring kids, business, many things, and of course training horses. I too, have searched and searched for the answers.

One day I woke up, with the help from this little voice inside. Turns out that little voice was the Holy Spirit. I was really down on my situation, and myself. Next thing you know I was off searching again. But this time I was searching for a church. I new everything else I tried didn’t work. Maybe it was time to give God a try.

So with the help of my wife, who had wanted to do this previously I might add. We began looking for a church. Now I had been raised in a church, but I have to admit I didn’t pay much attention. Thank the Lord, my wife had. With her experience she taught me what to look for, a good bible teaching church that emphasized Jesus.

I was still skeptical that this would be of any help. Finally we found a church that met the criteria, and the people seemed very caring. We decided to stay. One Sunday I attended alone, and something came over me when the Pastor made the altar call. I began to weep uncontrollably, and like a piece of steel drawn to a powerful magnet I found myself heading for the altar. I accepted Jesus into my heart to be my savior. This was the first step. Then a few weeks later I was baptized in water. Step two complete.

Now I wish I could tell you that everything changed from that point on. I think in my weak mind I thought it would. I thought Life would automatically get better. No assembly required kind of thing. After all he is the creator of the all things. Well how wrong was I. After a few months, and still experiencing bad things that lead me to this in the first place. I just quit again.

I stopped going to church, but I still seemed to long for God. I did continue to discuss it, and to read the word. I still believed that God could change things. I just don’t know why I quit. I just did.

Finally about two years later I realized that I had wasted nearly 30 years of my life. My marriage to a wonderful woman was struggling still. Because, I didn’t really know how to love anyone other than myself. My finances were a wreck. I was a guy that let everyone think I had it together. Reality is I don’t know squat, about anything. I tried this, and that. Everything I tried just backfired on me. I finally realized that I was just living one big lie.

Anyway, all that was going on led me back to church. This time I started getting involved. Started reading the bible, and studying the word. Even though things still weren’t changing at a rate I would like I have seen, I stayed with it. Two years after going back I was baptized in the Holy Spirit. Step three complete.

With the revealing of step three you have probably figured out that the loving church we found was Pentecostal. But, any church that teaches the word of God as written, and teaches Jesus will is just as good.

You are probably thinking how in the world did we get from self-help books to baptism in the Holy Spirit. Well because I finally have begun to understand that man, does not have the answers. I want to share that with everyone I can. So writing this is a way to do that.

Through Bible studies, reading the word, and praying over it. I am beginning to see that the answer to all of our questions, and problems are in the word of God. I haven’t found all the answers yet. But I have found that the ones I have found have worked in my life, and continue to work without fail.

I am a slow study. So I am still learning. Something that someone in a bible study class just the other day said really clicked the light bulb on for me. When God starts working with us, and we start accepting his working with us. It is like peeling a onion. We first peel the skin off to get to the good part to eat. Then we put it away a while. And when we come back to it we have to peel another layer off to get to good eatable part again.

This is the same process God uses with us. He first peels off a layer that gets us to surrender to him. Then as we can handle it he comes back and peels another layer off to get to the good parts. Each time he see’s we are getting it, he comes back and peels another layer of our undesirable self off, and teaches us a new way to make our selves better.

This process works for everything in our lives. I told you I was selfish, and unable to love anyone other than myself. I thought I new how to love someone, but I never really learned. God is teaching me a layer at time that to truly love someone as he loves me, and as my wife loves me, I have to put myself aside. I have to learn to put others needs above my own. This is a slow process. It is a process of reading the word, listening to others with more experience, and allowing the Holy Spirit to do the teaching. That can be hard for someone who has lived as I have. Manipulating my way through life. But the answers are right there in Gods word, the Bible.

I have not learned it all, and will never. But, what I have learned so far really works. God will communicate with us through his Holy Spirit and teach us whatever we seek. We just have to learn to put ourselves aside to hear him. And then carry out what he instructs. It is just like reading those self-help books with one great big difference. When we turn to the Bible, we not only get the words to read, but we also get the author with us all the time to ask as many questions of as we want.

Matthew 7, verses 7 &8 promises us this: 7″Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.

The greatest knowledge in the universe is open to us through this promise of God our father. When we pray over our troubles, and situations. Seeking his answer, asking his advice, he truly will open the doors we knock on. When he opens the door at the sound of the knock there will be an answer. An answer that can deliver us, restore us, and heal us from whatever situation we find our selves in.

I could go on and on about this. I get very excited when it comes to God, and how he teaches us. But time right now won’t allow it. Maybe he will inspire me to keep writing on this subject, and even do a book on it. But for right now I just want you to know whatever you are up against. I repeat whatever! The Bible is the only self-help book you need. You probably don’t even have to go out and buy it, you probably have one right there at home. But if you do it will be the best money you ever spent to fix your problems. Unlike the other books that leave you hanging at times. This one comes with 24/7 support that will never leave you. All you have to do is seek, ask, and knock. The truth will be revealed, and another layer can be peeled away making you the kind of person God intended you to be. Righteous, and prosperous.