Question by Sarah: Depression/mood swings ruining relationship? HELP?!?!?
I’ve recently been diagnosed with depression, and my mood swings are off the charts. I have the best boyfriend in the world, and I have for nine months. The depression has recently gotten super bad because of things going on in my life. I can’t believe my boyfriend has stuck with me, I think I’m a real pain to deal with.

I often find myself taking my bad mood out on my boyfriend (accidentally!!!), but he sticks with me through it ALL. He’s just so amazing. What are some ways I can STOP taking my bad mood out on him?? I do not deserve him at all, but I love him to death. This is ripping me apart. Help!! I’m afraid he’s going to leave me soon!!

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Answer by Sweet Thang
You’re probably knocked up

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Question by Jessica: What is the relationship between depression and eating disorders/issues?
I am doing research on depression for hospitality class (cooking)
that means I need to talk about how it might relate to changes in eating, anorexia/bulemia nervosa and other eating disorders.
the more info the better!

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Answer by Penny
Depression can cause an eating disorder because depression makes you think you are fat and need to lose weight, even in melancholic depression. It happens in atypical depression because you gain weight instead of losing it. In melancholic depression your appetite is so low that you can go days without eating, mostly because you forget to eat because your appetite is gone.
An eating disorder can cause depression because you continuously put yourself down and telling yourself you are fat so you begin to believe it. It’s the same in depression, a never ending reel of thinking negative thoughts.

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Question by ‘: Self-esteem and relationship problems?
Ok i’m about to spill my heart because I need help, so bear with me.

When I was a kid, I went to very small schools (25 people or less) up until high school. I was very shy and lacked social skills. Middle school is where problems began to happen. I let people take advantage of me on a daily basis and got made fun of alot. That gave me low self-esteem. What was extremely important to me was having a girlfriend when I was in middle school even when I was in 6th grade, but it never happened. It devastated me that I couldn’t get a girlfriend, so I thought it was because of the way I looked (the low self-esteem issue). I REALLY liked a girl in middle school and became obsessed with her. She turned me down 3 times and I became extremely depressed for 1 year. I started losing weight and I became disgustingly skinny. I was somewhat skinny even before this. This grossed out the girls in my class and I became even more depressed. If I found out a girl didn’t like me, I would completely ignore her, even if we were friends before that. I still struggle with that problem today.

I got my chance to change in high school, because I moved far away from New Jersey, where I used to live, to Colorado. It was a fresh start for me and I loved it. I regained the weight, made actual friends, and became very social and outgoing. The first 2 years were great, but these last two I’ve noticed that my past is catching up to me. I’ve become very negative lately for no apparent reason, even though i’m a very happy person. My biggest problem is that I still have self-image problems. For example, I always feel the need to change the way my hair or face looks because I think that I could do way better, even though I look perfectly fine.

My real problem though is with women. I didn’t get my first girlfriend or kiss until I was 18. When I was in the relationship, I was really clingy. I wanted to talk to her all the time because I had waited so long to have a girlfriend. She could only take 2 weeks of that and broke up with me. It hurt, but I got over it in about 3 weeks. My problem with girls now is that if i think I say something weird to a girl I like, it ruins my whole day. I feel the need to be perfect when talking to her. I always worry about what she’ll think about the clothes i’m wearing. Or if she doesn’t show up to class, it ruins my day also thinking about lost opportunity with her. Its during these times that I’ll make a change of appearance with my hair, because I think that I look better a different way (low self-esteem issue from middle school). I’ve been told many times that i’m good looking, and I can see it, but I don’t really believe it (sorry if I sound vein).

I just need some advice, how can I overcome my self-esteem issues, my recent negativity, and my clingyness towards women? I don’t want to sabatoge every relationship i’m in, because its happened twice already and I can see a pattern forming. Please read the whole thing to truly understand my problem. Thank you for your time:)

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Answer by xbleedingx4xux@sbcglobal.net
Ugh we are so much alike. So with that I believe it is a common problem. I just wrote a paper on cliques and bullying and how damaging it is if it doesn’t kill the child first! You may need therapy for the self-esteem issues if they have not gone away by now. You need someone to direct you to a place where you can say, “Hey, not everyone will think my looks are attractive and I’m okay with that.” I personally cannot help you there. Your negativity could stem from the hatred or guilt, or whatever the emotion is that you feel about yourself and your esteem. Humans can only take so much so long. This may or may not go away. If you feel it’s a big problem then get help for that too.

I have tried many different methods to rid my clingyness. I try to keep myself busy doing fun stuff and it would be easier if I had a car, so I can go to the movies, or go home, etc. So that usually backfires. Then I may try not to bother the person for the whole and sometimes your significant may think, “Well why are they ignoring me now?” So my number 1 plan would be to keep yourself busy. When you’re doing things, you’re not as anxious as to when you will talk to her again because your mind is preoccupied. I don’t know if homework will help, but it’s a great time to get that stuff done. Also try to stay away from other girls. In such a stage, you will be more easily drawn into cheating even though you don’t really mean it, especially if someone else is giving you the certain amount attention you need. Also, I usually warn a guy that I need a lot of attention and ask him if he can handle it before jumping into a relationship. It doesn’t always work t hough.

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Millions of people in the U.S. seek help from counselors and therapists each year. However, did you know that only 50% of the people who enter therapy avoid divorce, and less than 20% report any improvement at all? Why is this strategy unsuccessful? Counseling is usually based on improving communication and problem solving skills, and in most cases this does absolutely nothing to address the root cause (low Self-Esteem) of a relationship crisis. At this point, you may be asking what a low level of self-esteem has to do with your failing relationship. Well, the answer is everything! You see, the root causes of a relationship crisis are the fears and insecurities caused by family dysfunction. These patterns of control, abuse, and part-time parenting rob a person of their personal power and undermine self-esteem. As an example, “My Mother verbally abused me by constantly telling me I was worthless, stupid, and ugly, but she’s right, I am!” Or, “My Father always said that my sister is prettier and smarter than me, but he’s right!” This type of abuse and self-blame destroys ones self-esteem and can throw a monkey wrench into a relationship quicker than you can say “Bobs your Uncle!” Obviously, the two individuals mentioned above don’t love themselves, and they view themselves as being flawed and worthless, which by the way is absolutely untrue and ridiculous! However, the more someone tells you that you are worthless, the more you begin to believe them! Let’s face it! If you really loved yourself and were brimming with self-esteem, would you be in the mists of a relationship crisis? Therefore, if you want to overcome your relationship challenges, you’re going to have to seek the truth through liberation and restore your self-esteem through empowerment.

For your benefit, I have outlined the four stages of self-esteem below. Notice that liberation is the first. This is not by chance since the remaining stages are difficult, if not impossible, to reach if you do not obtain the first.

1. Liberation 

To set somebody free from socially imposed constraints.

If you are in fact in the mists of a relationship crisis, begin by examining the path that brought you to your present state. What types of family dysfunctions played a role in undermining your self-esteem? Were your parents verbally, physically, or sexually abusive? Were they controlling and manipulative? Did they fail to provide the love, guidance, and bonding by showing up part-time for a full-time job? Or, did they abuse alcohol or drugs? These are the questions that must be answered. Once you have uncovered these negative patterns, you must liberate yourself from them by putting a stop to the dysfunctional behavior. This must be done by either setting some boundaries or, in extreme cases, by severing the relationship.

 2.Self-reflection

A complete and individual personality, especially one that somebody recognizes as his or her own and with which there is a sense of ease.

Once you have liberated yourself from patterns of dysfunction, it is time to re-evaluate who you are, what you believe in, and the principles you stand for. It is hard to be at ease with yourself if you fail to live your life in truth or stand for a set of principles. Define what those are and stand like a rock, refusing to let anyone persuade you otherwise.

 3. Self-love

To hold ones self in hi merit or regard, concerning their personality, principles, and actions.

Once you have adopted a new set of principles and beliefs, you can now begin to uncover who you really are. Get to know yourself! Discover your true authentic self, and realize that you have the power to change and create anything you want in life. We are all the same and we are all connected, so the playing field is a level plane! Note: (Mediation can be helpful in this process.)

 4. Transformation

A complete change – usually into something with an improved state, appearance, or usefulness.

Change is incredibly hard and very frightening for most people, isn’t it! The fact of the matter is, most people avoid and even resist change. But, you can’t avoid it, and you certainly can’t stop it. At the end of the day, life is a journey of change. And the sooner you realize that the better off you’ll be. Let’s use the following parable to describe the process of change; your standing on the dysfunctional side of the road and on the other side is change. You can stay on the dysfunctional side of the road and say “even though this side is pretty screwed up, it’s a little more comfortable than the other side because I don’t know what’s over there!” Or you can venture into the middle of the road, confused about whether to go back or to cross.” And, I don’t think I need to tell what happens when you stand in the middle of the road to long, do I! Or, you can close your eyes and walk across in faith, knowing that whatever is on the other side has to be better than where you were! But, this is scary for people isn’t it? In reality, it just comes down to fear! You really do have “nothing to fear but fear itself!”

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Relationship Depression – Getting Back Into the Game For Singles

Relationship Depression Tips

Depression and anxiety occur when someone so badly wants something and it doesn’t happen. Albert Einstein said “Insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results.” In essence, this is related to relationship depression.

After a breakup especially, people suffer from awful relationship depression. I know I did. We tend to think only about the good times we had, ignoring the pain, and our emotional health suffers for it. This can slip us into an awful state of relationship related depression. It’s around this early stage that people tend to make the biggest mistakes that drive their partner away for good.

There are methods to ease the emotional pain and depression associated with a breakup. For example, there is a method called ‘The Sedona Method’ which basically works on lessening the bad feelings you have through a few different verbal tactics.

Tony Robbins gained notoriety through NLP, or Neuro Linguistic Programming. This technique is also related to the Sedona Method, it involves re-framing negative ideas and beliefs that you have. Being a depressed single person can involve an awful lot of negative beliefs which need to be ‘re-framed’. I have read books on the topic and I’ve used the tactics in my personal life. After reading the books and comparing them to the eBooks available, I can confidently tell you that you have some of the best information on the topic readily available to you in an instant.

If you are serious about getting rid of relationship depression, it takes some effort. I urge you to check out Get Back With My Ex before it’s too late.

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