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How To Use Your Body To Control Your Emotions

Mom — Wed, 11 May 2011 12:43:02 +0000

Our emotions can be our strongest allies or our worst enemies. This first episode of Distinctions For Life, gives you some tips to take control of your feelings and make them work for you. Combat depression, anger, frustration, sorrow, melancholy and other negative emotions with what you learn in this episode. You will also receive valuable resources for follow up study. Get a review of Tony Robbins, books, audio programs and seminars from someone who has been there. Learn how cool firewalking can be. www.distinctionsforlife.tv

how can I effectively overcome my low self esteem and envious emotions?

Mom — Tue, 05 Oct 2010 19:29:01 +0000

by dbking

Question by anny: how can I effectively overcome my low self esteem and envious emotions?
I suffer from extremely low self esteem and no matter how many things I read to help me overcome it, nothing seems to work. I cry because of the way I look and no matter how many people tell me that I am beautiful(many people do) I never believe that it is true. I constantly look in the mirror and all that I see are my flaws. I get jealous when I see girls with nice bodies, long hair, and a lot more material things than I have. I try to impress others with the way that I dress and I always wish to have designer things even though I know that I don’t need them. I’m too embarrassed to tell anyone except my boyfriend about this problem and I don’t even tell him about it all the time. I feel alone in this and I don’t know where to go from here. I don’t want to try counseling but I really don’t know what else is out there for me. how can I effectively overcome my low self esteem and envious emotions?

Best answer:

Answer by mararadha
the first thing you can do is focus on yourself- this takes your own determination. for me, working out and making my body healthier and fitter helped a BUNCH. maybe for you joining Curves will help (i love it there!), or maybe just walking on a daily basis. or maybe it’s yoga? or maybe it’s something completely different- you choose.
the second thing you can do is continue to read up- self help books get a bad rap, but often they can help us to think about the same things in different ways. try “you can heal your life,” or try googling to see what you think is best.
and, ultimately, you’ll have to do some talk therapy. this could be with a counselor, shrink, a clergy-person or meditiation teacher, or even sometimes “intuitives” aka psychics do a form of counseling. when i started telling my boyfriend about my insecurities, he was very understanding and patient, like yours. but then i realized- he won’t be that way forever. i had to help myself before he got “sick of it”. OF COURSE 6 months later i still have the same problems, but they’re smaller. more manageable. and he notices, his burden has been reduced. and the fact that he sees me working on myself makes him even more patient and understanding.
it took me 2 tries to find a good psychologist. at first i thought i should see a woman, bc my issues are about men, but then i discovered bc i also have issues w women (like self esteem and comparing myself negatively) i found a good professional match w a gay male psychologist.
good luck girl. don’t give up. life will never stop being stressful. much love.

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The PEAR Process – Healing Your Emotions

Mom — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 05:22:02 +0000

Olivia Stefanino, Author, Speaker & Coach provides an overview of her powerful process to overcoming emotional issues that can be the cause of poor health, low self-esteem, low confidence, relationship breakdowns, poor performance at work and a multitude of other negative influences. It’s time to let go of the past and move on.

Destructive Emotions #5: Low Self Esteem

Mom — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 09:23:01 +0000

Low self esteem is the cause to many deeper issues. If not dealt with it can lead to depression and thoughts of suicide.

Is There Depression Help?

Mom — Fri, 04 Jun 2010 04:35:03 +0000

Penelope Diaz asked:

Today, more than ever before, people of all ages and types are suffering from depression. Chances are, if you aren’t suffering yourself, then someone close to you is a victim of depression. Perhaps then you are looking for yourself, or maybe you are looking for someone that you love.

In either case, there is hope and there is help. If you are the type of person that insists that change is not only possible, but inevitable, then you can count on finding an answer to solve the problem of depression.

Through much searching and trial and error, I found the answer for myself and I would like to share three key pointers to keep in mind for all who are still in the search for a solution.

It is vital to keep an optimistic attitude. I know this is very challenging, since optimism is the polar opposite of depression. However, without hope for a solution, a person can easily become overwhelmed, stopping the search and giving in. We are human being not human doings. What we do has nothing to do with who we are. We are daughters, mothers and wives. We are sons, fathers and husbands. We can be students of life and we can be learners. But we are not depressed. Depression is a state of mind, never let it become your state of being. Depression doesn’t define you, its what you are doing at the moment, it isn’t who you are. That would be like calling yourself a sleeper, just because you sleep, or a showerer, just because you take a shower. Doing is not being. Avoid negativity. Lets be real, you have enough of your own negativity without having to deal with other people’s crap too. Surround yourself with those that encourage and up build, those that enjoy live and love. Since emotions can be contagious, these types of people can help you learn to live again. Above all, continue trying different remedies to heal your state of mind. There are so many different types of treatments out there. In my opinion the most useful types of treatments are those that deal with changing how you think, because when you change your thinking you automatically change how you feel. The two are so closely related.

Check into depression help, and hopefully you will find what I found, a new life that is much better than the old one and a new me that I enjoy in a way that I never thought possible.

Self-Help for Insecurity – Reprogramming Emotions

Mom — Fri, 28 May 2010 17:37:55 +0000

asked:

How did you overcome your depression? Can you help me out?

Mom — Wed, 26 May 2010 09:53:45 +0000

Liberal City asked:

I go through these phases of depression, where at times I am really happy and other times, I am extremely sad. After my brother was murdered my emotions have gotten much worse. It seems as though my soul has weaken and I am vulnerable. I can’t handle criticism from loved ones, I am not motivated like I used to be, I am failing on my test in school, it’s hard for me to concentrate, things that made me happy in the past no longer do, and I am ultra senstive. How can I overcome depression without medication? What worked for you?

What damage does depression do to the brain and how can you treat it?

Mom — Sun, 23 May 2010 22:25:52 +0000

Tanja asked:

How does it effect your chemical balance, your brain? Is it critical or will be critical later in life? I just read on Yahoo News that Clinical stress could increase risk of Alzheimer’s later in life. Does age matter like during teen years? I had depression and begun running. I noticed that I have a hard time focusing and absorbing information. I forgot a lot of things. All my brain seems to focus on is emotions. Can I change that? The running has made me feel a lot better afterwards.

Five Signs That Shows Lack Of Self Confidence

Mom — Sat, 15 May 2010 17:51:56 +0000

M. Farouk Radwan asked:

Your emotions are private

Do you lack self confidence?

Are you already on your way to build it?

Are you always self conscious because you are afraid the people will notice so?

If yes, know that your emotions are private and until you fix your problems, no one has got the right to know them, your emotions are yours, no one should be allowed to know what you feel except the people whom you choose.

Five signs that shows lack of self confidence

The following are some signs that show that you may be lacking self confidence, any person with above average experience will spot those signs and determine that you are lacking self confidence, make sure that you are aware of them.

* Giving reasons for your actions : suppose someone was having launch with a group of people whom he doesn’t know very well, and suddenly he dropped his glass of coke on the floor. What will he do? , well some people will just start to give immediate reasons for everyone to explain why did that happen, by using comments like “oh, the glass was just beside the edge” or “oh, I am so tired today that’s why I wasn’t concentrating well”. Know that confident people don’t give reasons for their actions, if you dropped the glass or made a mistake, it doesn’t change whom you are, know that its your right to mistake because you are a human and not a robot .

* Replying back immediately to criticism: I am sure that you have experienced a situation where upon giving a small critic comment to one of your friends he replied back immediately and aggressively. For example if you told him “your performance wasn’t that good today” then he replied saying “no no no, its just because I was tired” or “no I was just thinking of something else while working and that’s what caused it”, that shows that he lacks self confidence, Confident people listen to criticism and see whether its constructive or not, if it was constructive they accept it else they don’t bother much. Think of it when you meet a body building champion and you tell him “hey bro, you are weaker than an ant”, what will he do? He will just smile and move away because he knows that he is a champion.

* Compensation: once I met a friend of mine and told him “hey you seem to be upset today” he replied, “I never get upset and i never have problems”. What is that situation? Is my friend a super hero who is always happy? Of course not, he is just compensating for his lack of self confidence. Every one compensate in his own way, one person may become arrogant, the other may reply using the never word just like in the previous example, others turn to perfectionists.
Know that everyone of us have got his own weak points just like he has got his points of strength, you don’t have to compensate for your weaknesses because no one is perfect.

* Body language : people who lack self confidence always take the defensive position ( arms folded and may be accompanied by crossing legs). Confident people rarely take this position unless they are offended or feeling cold so train yourself to forget about this position.

* Becoming a perfectionist : A perfectionist thinks that he lives in a perfect world so he tries to do everything perfectly, the problem here is that he may become upset if he got 99/100 in an exam!!!! , and that is because he thinks that unless he is perfect he may not become a worthy person, and so he is always upset because no one is perfect. Confident people are not perfectionists, they try to achieve success not perfectionism, if they got a “B” they may aim for an “A” but if they got 99% they wont aim for 100% .

Overcoming insecurity is this situation and boosting self esteem?

Mom — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 12:49:55 +0000

♥ asked:

My best friend became friends with another girl who I absolutely despise. I try not to get jealous because if I will then i will loose my best friend. I feel insecure and react in fear when she talks to her and i think that i’m not good enough or better enough. Whenever I see her that other girl is ALWAYS THERE and she is soooo annoying I try ignoring her and not talking to her but it’s not helping me or my emotions. I feel so insecure around my best friend when the other girl is with us and I can’t tell her to leave so how do I stop insecurity and reacting in fear because after that I get depressed and so sad sometimes I cry this might also be a self esteem issue so how do i cope with this. I’m begging for help before it gets worse because then i will go insane and destroy my relationship with my best friend
I have also talked to my best friend and shared my feelings and she is so kind hearted that she totally understands but i can’t keep telling her to a point where she will get frustrated with me