is it impossible?please tell me?
March 4th, 2010 | 
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harambasa qυеѕtіοnеd:
іf u hаd a messed up childhood, parents divorced, nearly nο authority, аnd u hаνе anxiety problems, аnd NO selfconfidence аt аll…іѕ іt impossible tο еνеr become рlеаѕеd? іѕ іt impossible tο еνеr gain SELFCONFIDENCE? I аm 20yo аnd im worried thаt fοr thе next 30 years οf mу life ill еnd up throwing money οn selfhelp books, аnd therapy thаt dont work, simply ѕіnсе іt іѕ impossible tο еνеr change tο being more positive аnd selfconfident, іf u missed уουr opportunity іn childhood! im COMPLETLY hopless, weak, аnd worried. I HAVE NO SUPPORT( FAMILY OR WHATEVER)… shpuld i јυѕt еnd mу life? ѕіnсе fοr mе thе οnlу realistic business іѕ, thаt ill never gеt out οf thіѕ…ill bе mіѕеrаblе аll life long, id οnlу ***** up peoples lifes…whаt ѕhουld i dο?
іf u hаd a messed up childhood, parents divorced, nearly nο authority, аnd u hаνе anxiety problems, аnd NO selfconfidence аt аll…іѕ іt impossible tο еνеr become рlеаѕеd? іѕ іt impossible tο еνеr gain SELFCONFIDENCE? I аm 20yo аnd im worried thаt fοr thе next 30 years οf mу life ill еnd up throwing money οn selfhelp books, аnd therapy thаt dont work, simply ѕіnсе іt іѕ impossible tο еνеr change tο being more positive аnd selfconfident, іf u missed уουr opportunity іn childhood! im COMPLETLY hopless, weak, аnd worried. I HAVE NO SUPPORT( FAMILY OR WHATEVER)… shpuld i јυѕt еnd mу life? ѕіnсе fοr mе thе οnlу realistic business іѕ, thаt ill never gеt out οf thіѕ…ill bе mіѕеrаblе аll life long, id οnlу ***** up peoples lifes…whаt ѕhουld i dο?
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no its not inpossible
Not impossible. Don’t end your life.
The challenge is to make your life YOUR life. As an adult, you are now in control. Abode on the past will not help you to go forward. Acknowledging that it wasn’t perfect, but taking control now will.
I know it’s hard, but don’t give up. And I know it’s simpler said than done. It sounds like you were denied a childhood (hostile to your will) and that *****. But do you want to deny yourself the rest of your life since of that?
You can do it – hang in there!
Get some new friends
How can you tell what´s going to happen in your future? You can´t possibly tell what´s going to happen in your life by the way your childhood was. I reckon you´re just to stressed out, too depressed right now to reckon in a more positive way. What if you meet someone who helps you, what if you regain your confidence. You know? You´re still young, so many things can happen in the next 30 years. It takes the same energy to reckon excellent things will happen to you, than it takes to reckon negative. So you might as well reckon positive, don´t you reckon?
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There are many persons out there who can and will help you, so don´t give up! You are not a fortune teller, so you can´t predict you´ll have a terrible future. Most likely, you´ll have ups and downs like all else. Don´t worry, be confident, life can´t always be winter, there´s summer and spring waiting for you, you just have to believe!
I’m 20 years ancient myself and deal with diagnosed depression and anxiety problems myself. **** really really ***** from time. I just finished a 3 year relationship, my job sucks, I only have a few friends and well there’s other crap but thats not the top. My childhood wasn’t the greatest either. I was picked on and didn’t really have any friends and **** but I’m still standing and standing stronger now then most since of going through hard ****. Therapy may be an option, so may medication, But you need to place yourself in a mindset that once in a while things will look up. And live for those few excellent moments. When you get them make the most of them and they will then continue and those excellent moments will be every other day then ever day and so on and so forth. You get the thought. Keep yourself busy also. Friends, drawing, writing, composition, video games, i dunno whatever floats your boat. Oh and write your thoughts down in a journal, just as they come to your head write them. It may or may not sound stupid but it helps soooooo much and if you date your entries you’ll be able to monitor your progress or downfalls and start to make comparisons or feel excellent about certain things. Lastly, end your life is a really shitty option. Since let me question you a question, “Do you really reckon things will always remain the same?” They never do.
when i had a ‘crisis’ in my mid-20′s
i took a balls out road trip through central america
changed my life indefinitely
drastic times require drastic measures
dare yourself to do something you don’t reckon you can do
you’ll be surprised at the results
(and hopefully stay alive!)
You should let all the pain and disappointment from your childhood go. Just reckon about the excellent things that have come of it. Like now you are self-determining. That is hard to do, so you should be proud of yourself for doing it without any family help.
DEFINITELY POSITIVELY POSSIBLE! YES!!! Especially in your case. You are so young and you are so aware of your issues. This is fantastic! I hope you realize this and be plucky to work on them. You will soon overcome them.
I’m 47 years ancient and I only just started to be aware of my problems when I was 33. (A lot of public went through life without knowing and learning to come out of it as they are not aware of their problems.) I went through therapy sessions, selfhelp books, meditation and conception about Buddhism. I’d say it’s been a fantastic journey and worthwhile experience. I’ve learned so much about myself and others. My parents were also divorced and we were pretty much abused/abandoned. I always longed for family to be loving and collectively and other material. I realized through therapies that my pain/suffering were from living in the past instead of now …to build the future. I’ve learned to accept things the way they are since I have no control over them. I have no control what other public say/reckon/do. Things I have control over (i.e., my thoughts, my behaviors, my future, etc.) I can work on. I also had a tendency to try to assess others instead of myself and etc. I realized that my parents had their own issues/problems. I learned to count my blessings and appreaciate what I have, instead of focusing on what I don’t have. I’m now disable and much more pleased than when I was healthy. How ironic is that! I am grateful for what I have even if it’s not much. It has been a fantastic journey.
In terms of how long it’d take, it all depends on how aware you are through out your process of growing. For example, even now you can learn to be aware of how you reckon/talk to yourself inside your head. When you are aware and realize that you talk negatively to yourself, stop it. At times, truly our own negative self-talk is the worse enemy, not our past itself. We all tend to see things (including ourselves) through our own lenses/filters and not really the way they are. When you are aware, you have choices. There are hopes and when you come out of it, you can also help so many others. Look at Oprah Winfrey, Byron Katie, and other public who . They had it tough too.
Entrust me that you will overcome yours. You are welcome to write me if you have more questions.
Do not end your life for anything, you’ll get through. My parents are separated as well and my dad was never supportive to me but you have to find your way back. A excellent business to do is get counselling and maybe see a psychologist. Try to maybe talk to your parents if you can and tell them that you need support from them.
It’s not impossible, don’t reckon like that. One of the first things to do is to try to reckon more positively.
Yes it is possible to be more pleased at times.get in some group that will support you.Go to the doctor you might need some med’s.Be around some excellent public, keep up asking for help.Church is helpfull to.keep tender yet to be being greatful for the excellent things happening.For your missed up childhood you might need gidance with a counclor.Your a adult now and have a choice with what direction you take and be respondsable of you needs. Like going out doing the things you like to do, that will help your selfconfidenence. And always know that you are person of worth in Gods eyes ,no matter what you done.Forgive your self. There is help out there, just place you heart out there, give permission to your self to receive what you need. I know it’s not that simple and it takes time. In due time you will get it. I know since i have had alot of terrible times. I snaped one time and took an overdose.I was place in the mental hospital. They told me i am Bipolar. It’s been hard sometimes, but things are getting better and better. My pray’s are with you …Charlene
get into a relationship and see the drighter side of life,beneath the dark clouds there is a bright sun
There are a lot of public who use self-talk to handle what is going on inside their minds. When self-talk is not monitored cautiously it can lead to drastic effects not only on one’s personality but also affects its mentality and psychology. Self-talk is a type of conversation which we conduct with ourselves. In literature we call it soliloquy. intellect’s reticular activating logic never forgets what we repeat again and again. Ironically this logic can not recognize what is beneficial to the individual and what is not. Reckon you can, reckon you can’t; either way, you’ll be right- a saying goes like this. Therefore when ever we ‘talk’ with ourselves, we should be cautious, very cautious in fact. There are a lot of audio programs which can help and there are a lot of online books. If I recall there is a book ‘self-talk solutions’ which is every effective in this scenario.