Is it IMPOSSIBLE? PLEASE TELL ME?
March 9th, 2010 | 
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harambasa qυеѕtіοnеd:
іf u hаd a messed up childhood, parents divorced, nearly nο authority, аnd u hаνе anxiety problems, аnd NO selfconfidence аt аll…іѕ іt impossible tο еνеr become рlеаѕеd? іѕ іt impossible tο еνеr gain SELFCONFIDENCE? I аm 20yo аnd im worried thаt fοr thе next 30 years οf mу life ill еnd up throwing money οn selfhelp books, аnd therapy thаt dont work, simply ѕіnсе іt іѕ impossible tο еνеr change tο being more positive аnd selfconfident, іf u missed уουr opportunity іn childhood! im COMPLETLY hopless, weak, аnd worried. I HAVE NO SUPPORT( FAMILY OR WHATEVER)… shpuld i јυѕt еnd mу life? ѕіnсе fοr mе thе οnlу realistic business іѕ, thаt ill never gеt out οf thіѕ…ill bе mіѕеrаblе аll life long, id οnlу ***** up peoples lifes…whаt ѕhουld i dο?
іf u hаd a messed up childhood, parents divorced, nearly nο authority, аnd u hаνе anxiety problems, аnd NO selfconfidence аt аll…іѕ іt impossible tο еνеr become рlеаѕеd? іѕ іt impossible tο еνеr gain SELFCONFIDENCE? I аm 20yo аnd im worried thаt fοr thе next 30 years οf mу life ill еnd up throwing money οn selfhelp books, аnd therapy thаt dont work, simply ѕіnсе іt іѕ impossible tο еνеr change tο being more positive аnd selfconfident, іf u missed уουr opportunity іn childhood! im COMPLETLY hopless, weak, аnd worried. I HAVE NO SUPPORT( FAMILY OR WHATEVER)… shpuld i јυѕt еnd mу life? ѕіnсе fοr mе thе οnlу realistic business іѕ, thаt ill never gеt out οf thіѕ…ill bе mіѕеrаblе аll life long, id οnlу ***** up peoples lifes…whаt ѕhουld i dο?
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Tags: Anxiety Problems, Screw, Selfconfidence, selfhelp books, Years Of My Life
yes
you should find a GOOD therapist that you respoect and get along with.
start a journal.
start meditating.
No, every situation can get better. And the problem is, you reckon all else is pleased and is always content. This isn’t the case, we all feel it is helpless and a lost cause at some points, even for long periods of time.
Life isn’t simple, but it has chances and as long as you keep going, you have a opportunity.
No need to be so depressed ! You should start working for your living as the first business, than you should be able to be grateful for life…One should not depend on others, it makes him ( her ) feel just like you described…Find yourself any kind of job, even if it’s a job of a cleaner in a local bar…I guarantee you, you will feel more confident !
You do sound nervous and depressed and I am sorry for that. I agree with nickipettis. Get professional help. Get prescribed with an anti-depressant, for example, so you start to feel back to your ancient, confident self. “Sometimes, the medication doesn’t seem to help. When that happens, it’s smart to talk with the doctor since there are different families of medications that work in various ways. If none of the medications work, there’s a excellent opportunity that you aren’t chemically depressed at all. Instead, it’s possible that the depression results from critical, self-defeating thinking. This is where professional counseling really helps.”
Harambas, listen, do not let the past invade your life any longer, what happened to you in your upbringing is in the past, don’t be one of those public who drag it behind them, it only gets you down.
Make this day a new beginning and I will say a prayer for you. Excellent luck and keep your head high.
Well I can tell you end your life would only be the beggining of your problems. I had a real screwed up childhood too. Infact, I pretty much have no relationship with my parents any longer since they screwed me up so terrible, and are doing the same business with my siblings, who I had to take care of for a long time. If you don’t want to be miserable, don’t let it happen. Take control of your life. Be your own authority. You’re ancient sufficient to know right from incorrect, you don’t need parents to teach you that. Go see a doctor who can help you get on anti-anxiety meds, and or anti-depressants. Focus on what you’re excellent at and not remember the material you’re not. Write out some goals, then figure out what you have to do to reach them. Start out simple, and work your way up.As you reach your goals, you will find your self admire started to rise. I’ve suffered alot with low self admire, and the only business that will help you, is focus on your excellent points. Try not to let things get you down. Give your self some credit bud. You’ll be ok, I promise.
Yes, yes, yes, not only is it possible it will. You may not realise it, but just by asking this question you are better off than many, you realise that there are options, possibilities. One day you will deliberate all these horrible things that have happened to you are advantages. It’s the university of life, it equips you for life’s ups and downs, you may reckon that public who have had a more stable, loving upbringing are more fortunate than you, in some ways they are, but when it comes to being equipped for life, you have the advantage. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, one day all the pieces will fit collectively and you will look back on all you have been through and instead of considering yourself as a victim of circumstance you will realise you are a SURVIVOR. Be thankful to have had the opportunity to learn the things you have and look forward to the future, you control it, make it bright, be all you can and should be. Be kind, but learn to say no and do what is best for you, all around will benefit.
Find a excellent counsellor, if the first one doesn’t float your boat, find another.
Not remember the world around you, read just one book on the Disbeliever belief. After that, meditate as often as possible. This earth is a smokescreen intended to make you feel just as you do. This advise is not to be taken lightly.
By the way you stated you question, it is obvious that you are very intelligent,
But I would like you to re-read your question and count the negative statements you are presenting to you mind. STOP DOING THAT !, it accomplishes nothing, and place you in a anxiety provoking state of mind.
If you can locate a copy of (The Power of Positive Thinking), read it.
I would say more but don’t want to confuse you.
Feel free to email me if you want to pursue this further.
Remember you are only 20 years ancient and just beginning your journey, I assure you, with your brain, it is going to be fascinating one, and provide you with a fantastic deal of happiness and joy. Sincerely
If you believe things can improve – they will. If you choose to be strong – you will. If you choose to be positive – you will.
But IT IS completely up to you by changing your thinking.
Your life will be whatever you make it. I’m speaking from experience here. Often public won’t help especially if you come across as too needy since they can’t know the pain inside that you are feeling. The anxiety is something you will have to work through and may need some professional help with that. It is understandable with what you have been through to have some anxiety. Believing in yourself, staying focused, working on it and learning to relax can help you with that, but talking with a therapist may also help. I had to manage without family from 17 and alone in the world – I can know. These are issues and it won’t be simple but you can do it if you want to – you have to learn to rely on yourself and be strong surrounded by yourself.
To save you years of self help books (lol) I read Dr Wayne Dyers book -pulling your own strings & you’ll see it when you believe it. And Louise Hay – the power is surrounded by you . – Many public go through this and survive, becoming strong sucessfull public with pleased lives. Take care – it’s all up to you.
It would be very hard to change with an attitude like that! GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK! Cool down and breathe, everything in your life is now up to you considering as you are now an adult choose your own path and allow yourself to find happiness even if it’s in just the small things for now! But you must allow yourself! No-one will do it for you, realise this first and then do something about it! GOOD LUCK x
dont you have any friends or even bestfriends that you can lean on?
Try to mingle with them, look life in the positive side since only you can help yourselves if you keep on thinking that you are weak then you really are, but if you say to yourself that you are strong and smart then you are..
All you need to do is to develop your self confident.
Life is too gorgeous…. and beside your too young many things will come on your way it maybe terrible or excellent but learn from it.
Just Do What Makes You Truly Pleased
and
Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful.
May you find your way friend,
try to stay pleased(:
Excellent Luck and God Bless.
Start loving YOURSELF. Stop wondering what’s *incorrect* with yourself.. Go out by yourself and do things you really delight in. Imagine the possibilities! Stop focusing on yourself and start noticing other public & things. Public survive messed-up childhoods all the time.
If you have the time, do some worthwhile volunteering. Be a grandson to a senior who needs help, like running household tasks, or just calling to chat & asking if they need your help with anything. Go see an elementary school principal. Offer to come 2 afternoons a week and read to some classes. You will be permitting a busy teacher to go sit inthe corner & catch up on her red tape. Help public. Stay a church and attend Sunday School. Be around public. Contact a local hospital & tell them you want to do some volunteer work. They’ll be pleased to have a helping hand.
Reach out & try some of this. I’d bet my last $ that you will feel better.
One more vital business. If you feel on the brink of suicide, go to a doctor or a clinic. Tell them you’ve had therapy & you are still depressed & suicidal. There are excellent medications to help you feel better.
Excellent luck to you.
the first business you have to do is believe in yourself. you gain self confidence by doing that. i dont reckon im the best and greatest at just about anything, but i make sure to tell all i am. that does 2 things: 1. it makes public reckon that you are self confident and they will treat you different. 2. it will make you work to back up what your saying. after a while, it will just come. all self help books do is motivate you to, well, help yourself!! all you have to do is motivate yourself. its hard when you have no one backing you, but entrust me, as long as you work your *** off and do things you delight in, it wont matter. there are always negative aspects in your life. the key is to ignore those aspects as hard as you can and use that as your motivation. reckon of life as a game. you let everything keep you down and make you miserable, then they win. i dont know about you but i am really competitive and that works for me since i **** to lose. just find that something that motivates you, and use it to get through everything that you are going through. the most vital part of it all is changing the way you reckon. you wont be miserable, you will be the best business to happen to public, and this is nothing for you. until you start saying that and make yourself believe it, you are going to have a rough time. if you say it sufficient, you will start to believe it. start now.
go read a child called it by dave pelzer
if this guy can get through all that, you can do it.
The fact that you can see that you have self doubts about the direction you are heading ,shows a desire to change what might be to what will be , and a desire coming from surrounded by is a most powerful business , over time you will learn that the support you crave comes from the same place …surrounded by , find a role model , someone you look up to , do what they do,…reckon like they reckon,….act like them , learn about life from those who have the positive experiences of life and you will gain the self confidence you lack, there IS someone out there who can help you , now go find them .