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Public with LOW Self-Admire are generally:

Convinced of their worthlessness
Full of feelings of insignificance
Unsure of their abilities
Likely to stick with the simple and familiar
Uncomfortable with praise
Fearful and unsure about the future
Perfectionists to extremes
Paralyzed by dread
Blind to new opportunities
Negative thinkers, overly concerned about the opinion of others. Not capable of handling criticism or rejection
Defensive
Procrastinators
Defeated easily
Uncomfortable in social situations
Manipulative
Inclined to blame others

Many public lack positive self-admire since of negative feelings they picked up in childhood from parents or peers. Self-admire can be hurt if you continue to believe the negative messages received early in life regardless of the reality of these messages. It doesn’t matter if you were attractive, well-behaved, said all the right things, got excellent grades and were sweeter than your sister. All that matters is what you thought about yourself at those times. If you had negative thoughts about yourself, your self-admire as an adult is probably suffering. If you had positive thoughts, your self-admire is probably stronger.

Self-admire can also be hurt if you act hostile to your own sense of values, such as honesty and integrity. You may judge yourself too harshly for certain behaviors that go hostile to these values.

Taken from: Minding Your Mental Health

Step 1: Before you can take steps to clear up your case of low self-admire, you must first find out its impact on you. Complete the Self-Admire Inventory. Then read the Model of Self-Admire to get a better understanding of concept of self-admire. Then answer the subsequent question in your recovery journal: What is the impact of low self-admire on your life, and at what level do you have the condition?

Step 2: If your rating on the Self-Admire Inventory was at the mild level or higher, proceed. Answer the subsequent questions in your journal:

1. How is my life a reflection of the definition or codependent described in this chapter? What is the level of severity of this condition on my lifestyle?

2. How are the three major symptoms of codependency, described present in my life?

3. How does my behavior reflect my belief in the famine principle, which says my life is better than what I’ve been used to, so I should be satisfied with what I’ve got?

4. What medical complication of low self-admire have I had, do I have, or do I have a propensity for having?

5. What are the specific negative lifestyle consequences of my condition?

6. What specific characteristics of my social class, my previous description of relationships, my family of origin, and my previous work description make me a candidate for low self-admire

7. On which specific symptomatic behavior traits of low self-admire do I feel no control?

8. At what stage of the illness of low self-admire do I believe I am? Why?

9. What steps have I taken to address the low self-admire symptomatic behavior traits which I possess? How successful were these behavior traits treated, ameliorated, or cured?

Step 3: Now that you have a full description of your low self-admire condition, answer the next ten questions in your journal to clarify your motivation to change or to treat your current behavior patterns:

1. How comfortable am I with the term “codependency?” If I don’t like the term, which term would be more conventional to promote me to get help for myself? Overanxious? Insecure?

2. How comfortable am I with the concept of my behavior traits being described as symptoms of an illness? If I don’t feel comfortable describing my behavior as “sick,” what term would be more conventional to motivate me to change?

3. How comfortable am I with looking at my family of origin, schools I attended, work environments as the sources of my current problems? What alternative explanation of the origin of my problems is more conventional to motivate me to get help?

4. How comfortable am I in looking at my problems? Do I deny their existence, both now and in the past? What steps am I willing to take to overcome denial of my problems?

5. How comfortable am I in expressing or experiencing my feelings regarding my problems? What would I prefer to have happen in order to help me address my problem behavior? What alternatives are offered to me in my circumstance? What if there aren’t any?

6. How mad am I getting in just conception this material and in answering there questions? What does this rage tell me about the presence of low self-admire in my life.?

7. How guilty do I feel about the inference that my parents’ or partner’s problems are a root of my current problems? How can I change this perception to a non- accusative, healing approach to treat my problems?

8. How simple is it for me to accept the reality that all does the best they can, given their level of knowledge and awareness of their problems; and that no one persistently sets out to ***** up or to make other public sick? What other rational beliefs so I need to develop in order to give myself permission to pursue the remediation of my low self-admire?

9. How comfortable am I in accepting that I need help for my “sick” behavior when I have or am currently living with someone whom I believe to be really sick with alcoholism, compulsive eating disorders, drug abuse, compulsive gambling, or other compulsive disorders? What can be done to help me in overcoming my loss of pride in order to accept my need for help?

10. What will my future look like if I don’t get help for my low self-admire? What can be done to fully motivate me to get help for myself now?

Hopefully, answering these ten questions has motivated you to accept yourself as a person with low self-admire who is in need of help and support. Go to Step 4.

Step 4: Once you have accepted the fact that you need help to treat your low self-admire condition, try some of the subsequent pathways. One, two, or more of them in combination may be “just what the doctor ordered” for your specific condition:

1.Enter into a support group which accepts the principles and philosophy of the Self-Admire Seeker’s Indistinctive (SEA’s) Curriculum of recovery.

2. Enter into individual, marital, or family counseling with a licensed or certified mental health counselor.

3. Use the Tools for Coping Series as a self-help guide to reorganize your life.

4. Enter a 12 step curriculum of recovery such as Alcoholics Indistinctive, Narcotics Indistinctive, Gamblers Indistinctive, Over-eaters Indistinctive or Alanon to address your compulsive behavior..

5. Enter into a support group for adult children of alcoholics (ACOA).

6.Read other self-help literature

7. Enter an alcohol, chemical dependency, or eating disorders residential or outpatient treatment curriculum to address your compulsive problems.

8. Attend workshops or seminars on overcoming codependency and dysfunctional environmental issues.

Step 5: Once you have used the helping strategies in Step 4, you should be on the road to recovery from your low self-admire. If you still feel stuck and not fully motivated to change, return to Step 1 and start again.

Taken From: Coping.org: Tools for Coping with Life’s Stressors

This can be a vey challenging experience. It is very hard work. My favorite person to listen to in the car is one of Dr. Wayne W. Dyers Tapes. I like his humor and doesn’t make this Jouney so serious.

You are not alone in this world…..

Don’t deprive yourself of your self-worth!!

You only need a HELPING HAND,

just like anyone else out who does at any top of their lives!!

Look no further than where you are already at!!

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