How can I overcome low self-esteem and low self-worth?
February 22nd, 2010 | 
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I аm going through thе wοrѕt раrt οf mу life whеrе nothing іѕ going mу way.Everything seems tο bе dυll,dυll аnd useless.Please hеlр.Yουr thουghtѕ аrе highly appreciated.
I аm going through thе wοrѕt раrt οf mу life whеrе nothing іѕ going mу way.Everything seems tο bе dυll,dυll аnd useless.Please hеlр.Yουr thουghtѕ аrе highly appreciated.
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start considering a counsellor itll help to be able to share your thoughts with someone who can be objective. I wish you luck I sure you are a fantastic person and have a lot to give to the world xox
Ive been there, Ive found a small book called “The Meaning of Life”, also there is a song the
I know that its not much, but only you can change your attitude to life, itits a choice you need to make yourself. If you let yourself be down then you will be down. You have the right to be pleased and if you need help take it. Only you can do things that can better your own life, no one else, there is no key business coming to save you so you have to save yourself, get help, get out there and delight in what you have since there are so many public that are worse off than us. Sorry to be so blunt but Make Christmas Day the first day of the rest of your life, and I wish you like and all the best of luck.
Debs xoxoxoxoxo
Sorry to hear that you are not doing well.
First of all realizing that all has the same ups and downs helps. Start watching other public and try to figure out what mood they are in. It will be an eye opener.
Also, have a plot for the times things go incorrect. Mine is ordinarily that I allow myself a day to stagger in self pity and then my time is up and I have to do something about it.
Third. I realized a long time ago that volunteering everyplace, or simply doing something nice for someone and thereby making them pleased, makes me much more pleased. Give of yourself. All it takes is a small gesture, like helping someone through a door, or paying someones coffee, that you don’t know.
And lastly, if you really come across someone in a terrible mood, or that is trying to bring you down, and you can’t avoid that person then kill them with friendliness. Question if you can help with anything else, and wish them a lovely day when you are about to part. cute revenge is the best.
No one can take your self respect and pride away from you. If you are working at or know you are a excellent person, and you are doing the best you can with what life has dealt you, then that’s all you can question of yourself. Get a book on Assertive Training or talk to a psychologist about it. Assertive not aggressive. This will change your life. Volunteer to help other public less fortunate than you, and you’ll feel so excellent in helping other public, you won’t have time to feel terrible, since you’ll feel excellent, and make new friends. Take an interest course in what you like, and you’ll meet public with the same likes. If you like it, it won’t be dull. Change things, your hair style, buy a new outfit, place on make up. Make a plot to make money, start small, and invest what you make into something larger. Just let your thoughts flow. Get some kind of project to work on. Struggle hostile to it. Make things go your way.Walk into the New Year knowing your going to become larger, better and stronger. You can do it. I did.
The excellent news is, you don’t overcome it, you accept it and then work towards changing it. Depending on how you became like this, your choices will be different. If someone else has brainwashed you into believing this, then you must give it back to them. You do this by journalling those involved a epistle that you won’t send telling them they lied to you.You are a excellent and decent human being and deserve all the peace, joy and like that your heart can hold. When everything becomes dull, dull and useless it is since you gave permission to yourself to except those feelings. Now you are tired of them and it is time to let them go. Place in place reasons to feel the opposite, say and do things that make you feel excellent about yourself #1 is giving to others, there is no better feeling of high admire then helping others. Secondly, if you never had these negative feelings you could never be grateful for and learn the opposites to them. Our admire and worth is up to us alone to attain, not selfishly, but humbly.
Try looking at life in a different way. I know, simpler said then done. But seriously. Try looking at whatever is making you feel like this in a new way. I was not feeling too fantastic about my self until I started having converstations with one of my friends who pointed out I should look at things in a new way. And it has really changed me, I’m no longer looking or sitting around feeling sorry for my self, I don’t really know what to tell you besides that. The looking at life in a new way comes from your heart, I can’t direct you any further, but I promise it will help.
Sometimes our culture and media emphasize the importance of self-admire and self-worth to such a high extent that we become selfish and egotistical, even when we are feeling low we question the question “Why can’t I just get what I want?” or “Why isn’t it going MY way?”. Self-admire is vital, but we also need to be careful of it also becoming selfishness.
I have found that finding ways to give myself as a servant to others has re-focused by view on life. Volunteering, giving to others, helping the needy, being there for a friend, emphasizing others rather than yourself. Then you will find worth in the fact that it’s not all about you. Sometimes continually trying to please ourselves only leads to further destruction, just like in Ecclesiastes where King Solomon talks about “Vanity”.
Memorize the subsequent affirmations and repeat them out loud atleast a dozen times:
“I am whole,perfect,strong,powerful,loving,harmonious and pleased”.
“I believe I am always divinely guided.I believe I will always take the right turn of the road.I believe God will always make a way where there is no way”.
“God’s wealth is circulating in my life.His wealth flows to me in avalanches of abundance.All my needs,wishes and goals are met instantaneously since I am one with God and God is everything.”
Read “the key of thinking huge” by dr.schwartz.
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Gud luck)
We all feel that way at some top or another in our lives. Here are some tips to help get you out of that phase:
1. Quit criticizing yourself: The most vital business to place into practice straight away would be to quit criticizing yourself. Watch for self-criticism – the moment you recognize it happening, pull yourself up fleeting and immediately stop it.
2. Compliment public when you like them. Sometimes making others pleased does boost your own self admire.
3. Develop a excellent body language. Look your best, stand erect, walk well, look in the eye. A fixed exercise regimen will help attain most of these physical attributes.
4. Take risks, and do what you dread.
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Self-admire is your conception of yourself. All has an inbuilt score card wherein they give themselves points on their self-assessment. It’s a excellent logic but not infallible. Our assessment is prone to influences from society. In fact we tend to judge ourselves more according to what the others reckon of us than what we really reckon of ourselves. More often than we find ourselves in a situation where we start to feel dejected.
Being over-critical of ourselves, we lower our self-worth. This results in low self-admire. But, all is not lost. Improving our self-admire is in our capable hands. After all we know what we have to improve upon – consciously or sub-consciously!
Our first step is to identify what we should perfect – external appearance, opinions, thinking, attitude or whatever else we want. Take a pen and paper and list out this inventory. When it is in front of you in black and white you will find it simpler to act upon it.
Secondly, make it habit to reckon positively. Initially this will seem like an uphill task but as you get into the habit, it will come automatically. When you reckon positive, you exude self-confidence that all around you will find hard to miss. Then of course you have to be decisive. Take firm and sensible decisions and stand by them no matter what.
Smile often to yourself and to others. Greet others when you see them and question how they are and how their day is going. Have excellent posture.
Reckon positively. When a negative thought enters your mind, stop and immediately counter it with a positive thought about the same subject.
Be nice to others and be nice to yourself. Conversely, don’t degrade others and don’t degrade yourself.
Face your fears and not remember your failures (after learning from them). Focus on your achievements and successes. Reward yourself when you succeed.
Quit thinking about trying to be perfect. No one is, so just accept that as it is. Don’t be too competitive and don’t compare yourself with others.
Don’t worry about what others reckon of you. Just be you. Many public are self absorbed and thinking about themselves anyway.
Hang out with positive and optimistic public who also have high self admire and self confidence. But when you are around negative public, try to direct your positive and optimistic thoughts in their direction. Don’t let them pull down your level of self confidence or self admire.