Counseling Mom

Nesports37 asked:

My english assignment was to create a video about my summer reading book, The Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher.

Kris asked:


I’ve been in Iraq for well over a year and while I have been pretty much out of harm’s way for the most part, it has been a rough year emotionally. I have not been diagnosed with depression before because I never saw a psychiatrist or anyone of that nature, however, I can tell you that for a good part of ten years, I’ve been having a series of depression which last for several days.

Here in Iraq, it’s been the most prominent. I would get depressed and feel empty inside and this will last for a week and then I would feel better for a week and get depressed for another week and feel better for three weeks. Usually, my depression is sudden. I would be at work and I will feel fine and then all of a sudden I would feel this uncontrollable saddness and empty feeling inside me. Almost like disappointment or like I lost something. Which would eventually turn into iritability and hostility and back to silence again.

I want to see a real psyciatrist but don’t know what to do. Thanks.

Den Braun asked:




Both modern world and its financial system are rather diverse. No wonder so many people are in debt nowadays; they experience hard troubles paying the bills and get notices from creditors. It’s clear enough that when you are likely to lose your or your car, you will hardly be able to sleep and even work well. Despite common opinion being in debt does not necessary mean that a person is a loafer and that is the only reason for his getting into bad financial situation. Some debt is actually good. Borrowing money to purchase a home, or to complete your education, is generally considered “good” debt.

When you found yourself in debt there can be numerous options for you: realistic budgeting, credit counseling from a reputable organization, debt negotiation, debt consolidation, or bankruptcy. The level of your debt as well as your discipline and prospects for the future will determine the option which is the best for you.

Those who have realistic assessment of what they earn and spend and who plan their finances – they do take control of the situation. The self-help should start with listing all sources of income. Once you know your fixed expenses you may easily define how much money you may spend and not to occur in debt. Then you should count non-fixed expenses (those that are different each). One can make a mistake when not taking into account such expenses that seem to be insignificant. If you bring them together and you will be surprised by this essential sum of money. By prioritizing your commitments you can make sure your basic needs are met and then you can decide what else you can afford, and what you may have to save for or do without. Thus, when you know what you earn and spend monthly you may come to conclusion – to earn more or to spend less. It’s quite easy to say “to spend less” but not so easy to turn it into reality. At least you can shop around for goods and services that are cheaper.

It goes without saying that budgeting takes time and mathematical skills. Surely, it won’t be the best leisure of yours. But if you budget is not eternity, you will have to choose: to work out budget or to get into debts. A personal budget can help you to plan ahead and make the most of your money. You also will need to review your budget regularly, because your circumstances are likely to change.

The information about budgeting and money management techniques can be fount at local public library and bookstores. Moreover, computer software programs can be useful tools for developing and maintaining a budget, balancing your checkbook, and creating plans to save money and pay down your debt.

When it comes to controlling debt, or getting out of debt, there is no remedy for all the financial cases. There is, however, one definite thing that you won’t avoid when it comes to controlling debt and getting out of debt – working your personal

Aurelia Williams asked:




Statistics on teenagers suffering from depression and other mental ailments are alarming. Various studies suggest that 1 in 4 teens suffer from some sort of mental illness. Teenage mental illness, to include depression, can have dire consequences. Teenage ******* is on the rise. It is the third leading cause of death in the age bracket of 15 to 24 years. Dealing with depression in teens is an important step in reducing these numbers in our society.

Many things can lead to depression. A teenager is just learning how to handle the pressures and emotions of an adult. Only 30% of teens suffering seek help. The others just suffer through and do their best to get through. Adults have difficulty dealing with many things, asking a teenager to deal with it on their own, is not be the best option.

Learning the signs of depression for our youth can be difficult. Depressed teenagers are often just seen as being a teen. Signs of irritability, fatigue, withdrawal and changes of eating and sleeping habits, are seen as normal signs of growing up and hormone surges. They are also signs of depression. Learning the difference in your teen’s behavior may be key in getting them the help that they need.

Learning to talk to your teen may be your best investment in their mental health. Parents and adults in a teen’s life struggle with this aspect. They often want to see the teen as still a child where the teen wants to be seen as an adult. Learning to bridge this gap and communicate efficiently may be a daunting task, but can be managed.

An adult should learn to offer support when conversing with a teenager. Let them know you are there for them. Ensure them that you are available to them at any time. Show them that you can listen without being judgmental. Don’t try to talk them out of the way that they feel. Show them that you can understand and give them the help that they need to deal with how they are feeling.

Trust your own instincts. If you have a teenager that is showing signs of depression get them help. Trusting your own feelings and emotions may be what sets the teen on the road to better mental health. They may resist getting help at first. Be firm. Let them know you are there for them and willing to work with them, but insist that they find someone they can work with to help them through this difficult time in their life.

Often a teen will find it easier to speak with someone other than a parent. Consider a peer mentor for your teen. These are teens that are trained to work with others. They become a positive influence. Teen mentors can become a confidant and will be there for the teen that may be in trouble otherwise.

Teenage depression is a serious problem, but can be treated. Learn to recognize the symptoms and get help as soon as possible. Turn the teen in your life into a success story instead of a statistic.

Dean Mapa asked:




“My clan is the weakest in Manasseh, and I am the least in my family.” -Gideon

Talk about low self-esteem! But that’s how Gideon described himself when the angel of the Lord appeared to him (Judges 6:15).

It was understandable. During that particular time Israel was in hiding. They harvested during the night under cover of darkness and in silence. They feared being over-run by their enemies who would steal their harvest and enslave some of them.

In more free circumstances, harvest was carried out in the day time with singing. So it was a shame for Israel to be playing a cat and mouse game with its enemies, Israel being the mouse.

Low self-esteem. What causes it? If we take a look at Gideon’s story, we can glean a few and know how to overcome them.

1. Fear. It’s one of the first of mankind’s emotions. However, be aware that fear can be both debilitating and energizing. For Gideon and his people it was debilitating. If we were to follow Gideon’s frame of mind, we could say they had the lowest of low self-esteem.

How can fear be energizing instead? You let it motivate you and not make you cower. The angel made Gideon realize they could face fear head on and defeat it; or let fear relegate them to a life of hiding. Former US President Franklin Roosevelt once said: “The only thing we need to fear is fear itself.”

Know the cause of your fear and your more than half-way in conquering it. More often than not, when we discover what’s behind our fears, we discover they’re not reason enough to
cause fear.

2. They didn’t know their strength. The angel told Gideon, “Go in the strength you have…” (Judges 6:14). The angel could have added, “Not in the weaknesses YOU THINK you have” (capitalization mine).

Many times we dwell in our weaknesses even though many of our weaknesses are mere thoughts. Dwell instead and build on your strengths. The Apostle Peter had this to say:

“For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ” (2 Peter 1:5-9).

Peter certainly built on his strengths. From a fisherman he became one of the authors of the best-selling book of all time.

3. They weren’t at peace. I’m not just talking about the conflict Gideon’s people had with their enemies, but the conflict within themselves. Gideon’s questions to the angel reveal an inner conflict. He was not at peace with himself. He, along with his countrymen, was not at peace with other people.

The very core of these outer and inner conflicts was that they weren’t at peace with God. Thus, when Gideon knew God had a purpose for him, the Bible tells us he “built
an altar to the LORD there and called it The LORD is Peace” (Judges 6:24).

Much of our inner turmoil can be traced to a turmoil with God in the form of guilt, unforgiveness, bitterness and the like. Inner turmoil causes low self-esteem.

Thus, forgive yourself, first of all. Don’t torture yourself with past failures or mistakes. Know that failures and mistakes are there to make you a better and stronger person. Friedrich Nietzsche wrote, “Out of life’s school of war: What does not destroy me, makes me stronger.”

Forgive yourself; then forgive those who’ve hurt you and ask forgiveness from those who’ve offended you. Then ask forgiveness from God. Being at peace with God, others and
yourself gives you a fresh start to building up self-esteem.

jasmine asked:


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Christina Sponias asked:




If you are so desperate that you can only think about putting an end to your life, you must work seriously and be very careful because your despair has many reasons besides the ones you already know.

If you have decided to commit suicide, you are sick. You are undoubtedly suffering from a psychic disease. Do not believe that you have very valid reasons to want to kill yourself. No matter how much you are suffering and how horrible are the conditions of your life, it is sheer insanity to think about *******.

You don’t understand how your psychic sphere works or how your conscience works. Since you are desperate, I’m not going to give you explanations about how your conscience functions and how the craziness that comes from the wild part of your conscience is affecting your human conscience, but you have to bear in mind that you are ignorant about the complex psyche and you don’t know how your brain, body and psyche function.

Since you are desperate, you are unable to function normally. You are affected by craziness. Be very careful when you are this way, because you may do crazy things and they may be fatal. ******* is one of them.

Suicide is the worse mistake a human being can make because one’s entire life will be wasted this way. One has to accept the suffering one faces in life and never run away from it because this is the only way to become a conscious human being.

Consciousness is acquired through painful experiences. Your tragic experience is now awakening your human conscience and transforming your soul. You have to pass through this process. Trying to avoid it is the biggest mistake you could make because this way you will not learn anything or be transformed. You will have to start from the beginning after death, because nothing finishes here on Earth. This is only one planet among many, one level, one dimension. There are many other planets and many other universes, many things that are beyond our knowledge.

Suffering is necessary to acquire consciousness and sensitivity. Sensitivity is indispensable if you desire balance and a peaceful life. Accept your suffering like a hero, and this way you will really be transformed into a hero.

Simply accept this moment and stay alive until tomorrow. Stay alive everyday. From tragic moment to tragic moment, you will build your personality and evolve.

All those who accepts life without falling and continues one’s battle with courage in the end discovers a treasure that is worth more that diamonds! Your evolution can also save many people who will follow your example, and you can do many things to improve the world where we live suffering because many things here are completely wrong. So, stay alive and do something to help everyone find peace and live happily.

Don’t commit a ******* to show your failure to the world; instead, give to the world your solution!

DattatreyaSivaBaba asked:

www.sivababa.org more videos bit.ly Someone came to me and cried “I’m not being appreciated whatever I do the boss doesn’t like me and puts me down.” He was very frustrated about it and I told him the problem was not his boss’s problem the problem was his problem. First he suffers from low self esteem and second problem is approval seeking. Approval seeking behavior sets up very bad expectations and you won’t be happy at all.